Why Bad Girls Get the Good Guys – Gideon Banks

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Who says guys don’t gossip? Well, I don’t know about other guys, but my friends and I do. Though we rarely have the time, but whenever we do, we like gossiping about women. And I think that subject is very interesting considering how unbelievable women are.
Two weekends ago, we were at it again. He was on his laptop and I on mine. Then he sarcastically laughed out loud, held his head in his two palms in surprise and said, “So Kemi is the girl Kingsley (not the real names) married!” I know Kingsley. He is a friend, not a really close one though, but I know him well enough to know he’s from a good home, has a good job, and seems to be a stable guy. He is also a handsome decent dude. The type every woman will hope for. I think.
“Who be kemi?” I asked. “You no sabi am? Kemi. That girl back in school with one bad ass like that (using his hands to draw up a funny shape) dark, has big bright eyes… bla bla bla… and he went ahead to describe her until I had to pretend to suddenly remember her, though I never did. You know that awkward moment when someone is certain you to know something even when you have no idea what they are talking about.
I got curious and asked “So why are you surprised that Kingsley married her?” “She’s a bad girl!” he exclaimed. He was surprised I asked that question because he expected everyone one who knew Kemi at all to know she was an unrepentant “runs girl”. “Kingsley deserves a better girl” he said disapprovingly in a rather disappointed tone. We went ahead to talk about “bad girls” and how that they almost always gets the “good guys”.

Who are “bad girls”?

Definitions of good or bad are relative, diverse and can be confusing. It is difficult to class someone as good or bad because diverse things inform our individual opinions of what is good or bad. For instance, an average guy agrees that most “bad girls” are “good” in bed. Needless to say they want their women to be good in bed. But most guys wouldn’t want to end up with a “bad girl”. I doubt if anyone can propound a generally acceptable clear-cut differences between good and bad. However, culture, upbringing, education, religion, societal expectations amongst others can determine an individual’s moral standards and their characterization of a good or bad person.
I assume it all boils down to moral standards. Promiscuity and waywardness for instance are unacceptable in our society, so bad girls naturally fall into that category. The good ones are decent and well-behaved. They keep one boyfriend at a time, and do not cheat on their partners. They are the “wife materials.” Other definitions apply.

How bad girls get good guys

But then, E no dey show for face. How is one supposed to know? Since no one wants to be labeled “bad”, many have simply learned the art of wearing masks and have become pros at managing their duality. Where hypocrisy is a way of life, determining who is a good girl or a bad one is almost impossible. There are still some real good girls out there though. Locating one is a game of luck.
I have a feeling that at some point, Kemi determines when to switch from bad to good. Then she wears the “good girl” mask and practices the good girl thing quite better than the original – doing everything plus ‘extra’ an original good girl will never do, therefore beating them to it. That will be irresistible to many men, especially the Kingsleys who is either too naïve or rather beclouded to sense where Kemi is coming from.

Good things about bad girls

• They are not naïve. They understand men better and knows how to get their attention
• They understand the power of ‘extra’ and use it well
• They appreciate good guys and value them
• They are clear on what they want
• They give it their best shot

I recommend that the good girls learn these lessons from the bad girls. You might also want to see 10 Reasons No Man Wants To Marry You.