On Valentine’s Day husbands will arrive home with chocolates, roses, lingerie and images of probable intimacy afterwards dancing in their heads. As wives everywhere unwrap their gifts, they’ll be thinking, "So what’s in this for me?" Far from being that romantic holiday as depicted on the cards, Valentine’s Day has become another time for men to place more expectations on women.
The evidence is in: women are working harder than men. Most are still being paid less for their work outside the home. They are likely to be shouldering more of the burden of household and child rearing responsibilities than men. Women in the workplace continue to face sexism, spoken and unspoken. They are often exhausted by the expenditure of energy trying to combat the sexism they face without appearing petty or scandalous. Their work day is almost never over when they arrive back in their homes. Adding insult to injury, Valentine’s Day becomes an opportunity for men, in the guise of romance, to obligate their wives to intimacy when what their wives really want is time to relax, sleep, and have their houses cleaned by someone else. Therefore, for so many women their understanding of Valentine’s Day sex is just one more task that she is expected to perform.
For many women Valentine’s Day does not bring out romantic feelings. Instead, it ignites anger and frustration. Valentine’s Day seems to benefit men while requiring women to smile as they accommodate the desires of another man one more time. Women, at home and work, continually face the challenges of men who demand much and don’t give enough in return. While it is claimed that it is a holiday for women it doesn’t take much to see that it’s the men who get what they want, while women are wanting.
Wouldn’t it be great to rewrite the meaning of Valentine’s Day to a holiday that truly benefits women? The following are 10 rules for men that could transform Valentine’s Day into a holiday women can enjoy and maybe make them feel loved.
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